Examples for male/female communication differences
These are four brief sample conversations that I wrote based on student suggestions about the differences in how men and women communicate. I would use these examples on tests with a question like “Based on what we have learned about how men and women communicate, identify five differences in communication style that are contributing to a misunderstanding.” Find the in-class activity that I used to generate these conversations here: https://teachingpublicspeaking.wordpress.com/2012/05/24/in-class-activity-for-interpersonal-comm-gender-differences-2-2/
1. “What do you want for dinner?”
A couple are on a drive and the following conversation takes place:
Female: “Do you want to get something to eat?”
Male: “Sure. What kind of food do you want?”
Female: “I don’t care.”
Male: (pulls into a KFC)
Female: (sighs loudly)
Male: “What’s wrong?”
Female: “Nothing, it’s just that I thought you knew that I don’t like chicken.”
Male: “We can go somewhere else.”
Female: “No this is OK, I’ll just have a Pepsi.”
Male: “We can go get a pizza instead.”
Female: “This is fine. I haven’t had pizza in a long time though.”
Male: (Starts to leave parking lot)
Female: “What are you doing?”
Male: “Going to get pizza like you said.”
Female: “I didn’t say to get pizza. I said we can do whatever you want and you want fried chicken so this is fine.”
Male: “If changing your mind was an Olympic sport you would have a gold medal.” (laughs)
Female: “What? Why are you being a jerk?”
Male: (stops car) “Just make up your mind.”
Female: “Stop yelling at me!”
2. “Someone needs to go to the store”
A couple are at home on a quiet Sunday afternoon and the following conversation takes place:
Girl: Hey, it looks like we might be out of milk and cereal.
Guy: (playing videogame) OK.
Girl: So I guess someone needs to go to the store.
Guy: OK. See ya.
Girl: (Walks over and sits down)
Guy: (Finishes game) Do you wanna play?
Girl. No. I have to go to the store, remember?
Guy: (Starts new game)
Girl: Unless you want to come with me. You might think of something else we need and help me carry the stuff.
Guy: If you can’t carry milk and cereal then you should be working out more (laughs).
Guy: (Pauses game). Are you telling me to come with you?
Girl: I didn’t say that. I wouldn’t want to take you from doing something so important.
Guy: Fine, I’ll put the game away. What’s wrong?
3. “I can’t talk to you when you’re like this”
A dating couple who attend different colleges have the following conversation over the phone:
Girl: Did you hear that Wendy and Travis broke up?
Girl: Do you know which Travis I mean?
Guy: The guy who drives that Camaro or the one on the basketball…
Girl: Yeah, that one.
Guy: Which one? You interrupted me.
Girl: Don’t get mad. The one I went to high school with. So anyway, they broke up because she found out that he cheated on her.
Girl: Well isn’t that terrible? That would be the worst ever way to break up, wouldn’t it?
Guy: (Pause) I guess so.
Girl: You guess so? So you think it’s OK what he did? I can’t believe you’re totally taking his side!
Guy: I’m not taking anyone’s side. I don’t even know them.
Girl: Wendy’s been crying for three days and missed a major chemistry test because of this.
Girl: It’s not OK! I can’t even talk to you when you’re like this. I’ll call you later. Bye.
4. “You never told me that”
Long-time male and female friends have a conversation before class.
Guy: Hey, Judi and I are going to see that movie tonight. Wanna come?
Guy: But you said you really wanted to see it. Are you doing something else instead?
Guy: Then why don’t you want to come?
Girl: You know why.
Guy: No, I don’t.
Girl: I’ve told you before that I don’t like Judi, haven’t I?
Guy: You never told me that.
Girl: I told you a lot of times. Every time you wanted to invite Judi when we were going somewhere, I said no.
Guy: But you never said it was because you didn’t like her.
Girl: Because it was obvious. Remember that time that she said she would get me a card for the place where she got her hair done?
Girl: Well, she was saying my hair sucked and hers was better and that’s why I needed to go to her place instead.
Guy: Are you sure that’s what she meant? Maybe she just thought you would like to try a new place.
Girl: Are you kidding me? Of course that’s what she meant. She’s really mean and I don’t understand why you date her.